On human interaction and irritability aka Poli's Emotional Blueballs

At some point you really got to ask him/her/yourself how much longer will we play these games? Because the reality is: enough has been said, no one is trying to suffocate the other and all the recent steps have been made under the other party's initiation, so what can a girl be blamed for if all she did was respond. 

The Games that People Play has been my bible for a while and I've talked about it too much in verbal conversation, so I do hope the Universe will forgive me for mentioning it yet again. A book written by Erik Bern on Transactional Analysis, for me it was just a psychology book that happened to fall in my hands at the right time. Bern describes human interactions as strokes, or patting, like dog patting. The moment someone initiates a conversation is pat on the head of their conversation partner, so now the pat must be returned and so on and forth. There are different degrees of patting, so that if you ask someone on a date or pick them up from the airport- that's equivalent to 2-3 pats, so the other person is pushed to pay back with the same amount. The moment the amount of pats is outweighed on some side, a pat void is created, a sense of incompleteness which often is cause for irritation and dissatisfaction in a relationship.